The World Is Out To Get Me
Posted: Saturday, September 13, 2008
by Keith A. Shaw
Mind Body Spirit Central
I'll bet you have at least one or two colleagues, friends, acquaintances, clients or a spouse that is chronically miserable, gloomy and cheerless. Regardless of whom it is this person has something to whine about every day of the week.
Correct?
Or perhaps, the "friend" above is you...if so, it's okay to admit to it!
Maybe you are going through some tough times. Tough times, challenges and obstacles are all part of life and growing as a human being. And it is true that they are a "law of the universe" in which we live!
Here's a week-long look to illustrate my point. By the way, these are all real-life stories. Yes, unfortunately I was there to witness them.
For example, on Monday the "friend / work colleague" may have been ranting and raving and sounding like a broken record, over the latest "Somebody Did Me Wrong" that happened over the weekend. And on the flip side of the recording is their other hit song, "Oh, Woe Is Me..."
On Tuesday, it was the weather - too hot, too cold, too sunny, too windy... arrgh!
Wednesday, the conversation began with a dissertation about every little ache, pain, and paper cut. Or that they are too tired.
On Thursday, they were angry at the world spewing venom and profanities at every person they came in contact with - the stereotypical "finger flippin', horn honkin', road rager" comes to mind.
And, on Friday, they now believe that the world and everyone in it, is out to get them - look out for the tears! They constantly play the role of "victim" and blame everyone else but them self for their misery, negative thoughts and emotional outbursts - of course, all self inflicted.
Thank god for the weekend!
How can these types of people ever have any positive energy left to be motivated to achieve what they want in life? Let alone productively function from day to day?
Well, the fact is that they can not as a result of their lack of self control, self discipline and self mastery. And, there is nothing that uses up vital energy as quickly as a lack of self control and self mastery. Having used up their vital energies, the emotional, irritable person can not concentrate, nor focus on a single thought.
And it builds from there. The miserable, irritable, complaining person is not "magnetic". He / she is not admired or loved or fun to be around. And he does not develop those finer qualities that a person of success possesses. He creates a chasm between himself and others. And, therefore is not able to enlist others in helping him to reach his goals and dreams.
In addition, anger, sarcasm and rage weaken a person in this direction. The person that allows himself to get into any of these negative states of mind will eventually cause health problems, career problems, relationship problems, not only for themselves, but for the people they interact with.
If you currently resemble this person, what must you do? You must learn to harness your power of concentration that will lead to self mastery. When your mind can properly concentrate, all the vital energy of every bodily cell is directed into one channel generating a powerful personal influence.
Every one of us, even you, is made up of 10-trillion cells. Each one of these cells has a core where life and energy are generated and stored. If this energy is not conserved and controlled, but instead wasted, you can not become more productive and influential.
Remember that the scattered rays of the sun, when focused by a magnifying glass, produce a heat many times greater than the sun's rays alone. This is also true of your ability to concentrate on positive outcomes and taking action toward them. If your attention is not focused you get ordinary results. But center and focus it on your goals, instead of wasting it on useless complaining, and your motivation and growth will be strong and limitless.
Every action, no matter how big or small, defines everything that you achieve in life. Don't waste your valuable energy on anything less.
Copyright (c) 2008 Mind Body Spirit Central, LLC
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Keith A. Shaw, President of http://www.MindBodySpiritCentral.com is headquartered in Mount Laurel, New Jersey, Keith is an authority on motivation, success, self improvement, health and wellness.
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Top-level comments on this article: (4 total)There are people in this world who love to play the victim role. It gives them a reason to avoid stepping up and putting their energy into creating the life they want. They are committed to being the victim of something or someone.In the past I have given people of the victim mindset common sense information about how to improve their lives after they complained to me. The response I usually received was more of the same victim attitude or anger at me for thinking that I am better than them or know more.I learned that those in the victim mindset are there by choice and do not want anyone to remove them from it. That's fine with me. I wish them happy misery.
"Every one of us, even you, is made up of 10-trillion cells. Each one of these cells has a core where life and energy are generated and stored. If this energy is not conserved and controlled, but instead wasted, you can not become more productive and influential." Well written article, Keith. Thanks for sharing your clear thoughts here. I'm joining your fan club; please join my fan club if you choose. Again, thanks for writing. ~mogama~
Good article Keith. As I have matured I have found that I am the only one responsible for my feelings. PERIOD. I would much rather see the light side of things than to give others the power to bring me down. I enjoyed your illustrations and, yes, there are many people who like to play the woe is me. All I can say is God bless them.
Yes Kieth I agree about those whiners who have it all and still complain, profits down, I can't take another extended vaction, I wanted tickets to the football game and can't afford them, etc, etc, etc and then there are those who point out the facades of life, point out the phonies whose complaints trumpet the abuse of man and of their fellow man. We certainly don't want to be around them or hear from them now do we? I know for a fact. people run from that. It depresses them and brings them down. Only complaints and sadness. Yes and then again we may have to face reality and all is well for "me" and I won't let anyone drag me down, no way. I'm blessed, I'm positive and I'm doing and that is great. Yes to use your words "those finer qualities that a person of success possesses". So one might assume when you lose your job, can't find work, the lights go out, can't get a helping hand up, doors shut, Foreclosure, eviction, no food, I guess you can no longer be considered as having "those finer qualities that a person of success possesses". hey yesterday you hads them today gone? Why, well perhaps because your most likey not personally responsible any longer, not credit worthy any longer and in the end I guess we can define those who are successful as one of those, wealthy, rich and powerful investors and have types that us irresponsible types must now bail out. Yes I'm positive every single day but I still have time to hear and to see injustice to my fellow man. To stop and listen and maybe help. A little direct, no, not personally just to give my take on "whining" and perception. Many have ligitimate reasons and need to vent. perhaps maybe some of us who are always professing should lend a more compassionite ear? Perhaps that is what is necessary as a decent person not slam the door and yes "whining" about them. perhaps then we just might take that negative and change it to a positive? Just some thoughts. Thanks for the opportunity to "whine".
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